Soul-baring
Inspired by smittenbyu’s courage to reveal herself, I decided to take a little leap of my own. I posted a question asking if others had been thrown out of or rejected by a home… and I got almost an immediate response. I am not alone at all. The part of me that I have always been the most reluctant to touch upon, that extremely few of my real-life friends know anything about I actually share with others. That part of me I’ve only properly been able to share with Kary. I got a Christmas card from her saying that she was leaving in a few months, and I am very happy for her.
We both just thought that it is impossible to explain to an outsider who hasn’t seen it themselves. It’s not a secret per se, but it’s both very personal but above all incomprehensible to most people, it seems. I’ve simply found, like my mom and a lot of other people in the third culture, that if I explain too much about life stories and citizenships and feelings and moving, I cease to be a person and become a misunderstood zoo specimen. I am a person. Therefore, I present myself in such a way that I know I will be met like one – I use the cultural chameleon property most TCKs have.
I feel almost like I felt sophomore year when I found a link to www.tckworld.com – I laughed and I cried and I couldn’t believe that I could be described by an acronym rather than a life story with lots of points that were essentially incommunicable in practice. I’m actually very typical. And now I know that it’s not just Kary and I, there’s people out there who might have gone through the same things we have! I still can’t believe it. Now, if people just knew what all these terms were…
Update: An email later, I realize that we’re all third culture kids. This seems to be a problem stemming from being a hidden immigrant. Kids who are moving back into possible hidden immigrant-ness urgently need support and attention and above less hiddenness. Expatriates raising or thinking of raising children really have to get this kind of information. Really, really, need this kind of information. It’s being discovered by trial and error, but there’s no need for kids who are growing up today to discover what we already have.
This is an reference group orientation exploration milestone for me, I think. (An opportunity for me to explore how other TCKs see things.)
Afterthought: Maybe I do not cross cultures as much as I never exit the third culture. Maybe one can never truly leave one’s culture – including the third.
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